Love or Addiction
Love or Addiction
There are times when people get addiction confused with love, I know I have. People confuse the ‘highs’ and ‘lows’ as passion and collapse it into love. There is no workability with an addictive relationship. This is NOT love! They think, because they can’t ‘let go’ and simply release that person, it must be love. People confuse this push and pull as some passionate magnet of destiny to a soul mate. If you look up the definition of ‘passion’ in the dictionary it says:
Passion (from the Latin verb patī meaning to suffer) is a term applied to a very strong feeling about a person or thing. Passion is an intense emotion compelling feeling, enthusiasm, or desire for something. It is boundless. (Boundless love…Meaning, there are no boundaries, no workability)
See, the human mind is built so perfectly and harmoniously with the entire universe, it has to be in complete integrity with everything, at all points in time. When something doesn’t compute as the truth the mind will redundantly, and some times obsessively, re-calculate over and over again, trying to make sense out of it. The mind has to understand or it will create a lie to be able to survive. In order for anything to ‘persist,’ there must be a lie. So, when you get into a relationship with someone who is out of integrity, meaning…either their actions don’t match their words or they are creating dysfunction instead of harmony, the other person will become mentally obsessed subconsciously in order to try to figure it out. Unfortunately, you can’t figure out insanity; Hence, insanity equals insanity. The people around dysfunctional people will go insane trying to figure the situation and person out. Spiritual malady is contagious. Then, both people begin to be dysfunctional.. As the saying goes, “It takes two to tango.”
Addiction is a vicious cycle. When a person is addicted to a relationship or a substance, they can’t ‘have’ it and they can’t ‘not have’ it. It is like the line in the song by U2 ‘I can’t live, with or without you.’ It is like the alcoholic that wants to stop drinking, but as soon as they stop, they miss it and start drinking, only to want to stop again. Bottom line is that people are either committed to creating chaos or harmony. The person that is committed to harmony and love with figure out a way to end the vicious cycle within themselves. They will find their volition and prevail! The only way for the vicious cycle to end it to remove yourself from it, period. Addiction is a bottomless abyss, with undignified lows and suffering. If you are not able to break the ‘vicious cycle’ there are great 12 step programs for ‘love addiction’ and for all other forms of addiction (alcohol, drugs, money, sex, gambling, emotions, etc.) Addiction it is more prevalent that people could ever imagine. There is also ‘Alanon’ for partners of addicts. Breaking the cycle can be very challenging and confusing. Being in a relationship with an addict will make anyone go insane… this is a natural occurrence of the human brain.
Love just is…. True love blooms on all levels….. Spiritually, Mentally and Physically……It is based on Harmony, Beauty and Love!!!
Hindsight is 20/20. The Spiritual Glory of any suffering or being in a dysfunctional relationship is that it demands us to do our own inner work. The journey of knowing our true selves is a lifetime process. It demands us to go to depths of learning to love ourselves on a level we may have never gotten to without those lows. Developing a Daily Spiritual Practice and having Spiritual Principles to live by are both key aspects to creating a fulfilling life you love. When we live from Divine Principle and know we are the cause of everything….. Gratitude is the outcome of all suffering! It is so clear to me ‘why’ I choose to have such an experience….It was one of the biggest blessings of my life!
Loving life, e